Ex advice, where is here head at?

Ex tells me that things were great for a long time(together for 5 plus years) but that things had changed and she wasn't happy with things by the end of the relationship. She admits that most of this has to do with her leaving and going to law school and being multiple states away. My response to that was, if things were great when we were together daily and then got bad when we barely saw each other, doesn't the problem seem to be not spending time together? (this was all part of larger emails we exchanged, so I got no response to the question). Regardless though am I right in believing that the relationship is screwed? She is now living in NYC till May doing a internship and would like to think that her fab life is like something out of in the city, not noticing that its existence is based on borrowed money. For the last three years she has lived in south florida in a expensive house owned by family friends for free, then went to Italy and Australia the last two summers for cles and now NYC for this internship. All of this paid for with school loan money. Is she ever going to come back to reality, because thats not reality?